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| What is the 10-80-10 spectrum of happiness? |
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Definition
| For 10% of the time, life is spontaneously wonderful and gloriously happy, and another 10% is extremely difficult, tragic, and miserable. The remaining 80% of life is what you make of it. |
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| What is the equation for life satisfaction? |
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Definition
Needs being met
Wants fulfilled
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Life satisfaction
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Term
| What is interpersonal competence? |
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Definition
| Your ability to to meet your goals in a varity of situations with a variety of people. |
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| What is the most important way our needs are met? |
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Definition
| Feeling states: which will determine whetherour needs have been met or not. |
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Term
| What is the best way to discribe self-concept? |
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Definition
| It is not what you say about others, but what you say about yourself to yourself. |
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| Out of all of the characteristics of positive self-concept, which is the most important? |
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Definition
| Realistic self evaluation |
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Term
| What does the self concept cycle look like? |
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Definition
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| What is a positive cycle? |
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Definition
| Success is attrubted to self and failure to something else. |
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| What is a negative cycle? |
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Definition
| Success is attributed to something else and failure to yourself. |
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Term
| What are some of the research findings related to gender styles? List all that apply. |
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Definition
- male traits are more highly valued in our society.
- both men and women tend to see women as less compitent than men.
-generally young women expect more success for their future husbands than young men did for their future wives.
-more women than men said their partners should be surperior to themselves. |
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| What is the social change theory? |
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Definition
| You continue in relationships thatvare rewarding and you discontinue relationships that are too costly. |
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Term
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| When one person voluntarily tells another thing about themselves which the other is unlikely to discover from other sources. |
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| Disclosure by one person to another often leads to disclosure by the recipient providing it is appropriate. |
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Term
| What is the intimacy cycle? |
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Definition
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Term
| W hat are the stages of development in order? |
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Definition
I) orientation (first meeting)
II) exploratory (casual acquaintance)
III) affective change (close friendships)
IV) stable echange (committed/intimate relationship) |
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Term
| What are characteristics of Bsrtholomew's adult attachment styles of SECURE ATTACHMENT? |
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Definition
-comfortable with intimacy and interdependence; optimistic and sociable.
-low avoidance of intimacy
-low anxiety abandonment |
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| What are characteristics of Bsrtholomew's adult attachment styles of PREOCCUPIED ATTACHMENT? |
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Definition
-uneasy and vigilant toward any threat to the relationship; needy so jelous.
-low avoidance of intimacy
-high anxiety abandonment |
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Term
| What are characteristics of Bsrtholomew's adult attachment styles of DISMISSING ATTACHMENT? |
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Definition
- self-reliant and uninterested in intimacy; indiffernt and independent
-high avoidance of intimacy
-low anxiety abandonment |
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| What are characteristics of Bsrtholomew's adult attachment styles of FEARFUL ATTACHMENT? |
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Definition
-fearful of rejection and qmistrustful of others; suspicious and shy
- high avoidance of intimacy
-high anxiety abandonment |
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Term
| What are charistics of styles of love according to John Lee's ROMANTIC STYLE? |
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Definition
1. In love with being in love
2. Strong physicsl and mental attraction
3. Intense emotional attachment
4. Expects constant emotionsl peaks
5. Great urgency to be physical
Close to infatuation; some healthy characterisitics |
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| What are charistics of styles of love according to John Lee's MANIC STYLE? |
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Definition
1. Strong sexual attraction
2. High emotional intensity
3. Possessive
4. Extreme jealousy and moodiness
5. Alternate between great joy and depression
6. Need for unending attention and affection
7. All consuming, obsessed with the person
Extreme faital attraction; not healthy |
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| What are charistics of styles of love according to John Lee's EGOCENTRIC STYLE? |
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Definition
1. Self-serving and competitive
2. Obsessive passion for the game of love itself
3. Controlling and dominates
4. Goal is to get other person emotionally involved without becoming emotionally attached or committed.
5. Self-confident and generally content
Not interested in commitment, competitive; not healthy |
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Term
| What are charistics of styles of love according to John Lee's PRAGMATIC STYLE? |
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Definition
1. Rational and practical assessment of relationship
2. More of an outgrowth of compatibility then romance
3. Not especially intense
4. Aware of alternatives; know what they want and willing too wait
5. Wishes to do well as they can in the market place
Logical part of love; healthy |
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| What are charistics of styles of love according to John Lee's COMPANIONATE STYLE? |
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Definition
1. Very comfortable with each other, not real intense, or demanding
2. High level of companionship
3. Mutual respect snd trust
4. Mutual sharing and self disclosure, high level of commitment
5. Differences and disagreements not threatening
6. Grafually takes on romantic characteristics
Best friend; healthy |
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| What are charistics of styles of love according to John Lee's ALTRUISTIC STYLE? |
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Definition
1. Unconditional, forgiving, self-giving, (without strings attached)
2. Nurturing, encouraging, kind, caring, sensitive
3. Strives for what's best for the other person
Unconditional, no-strings attached; some characteristics healthy. |
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Term
| Describe the triangle of love. |
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Definition
| The three dimensions of the triangle are decision and commitment (the cognitive component), intimacy (the emotional component), and passion (the motivational component). |
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Term
| Describe Erich Fromm's Art of Loving. |
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Definition
1. Care
2. Responsibility
3. Respect
- trust
- kindness
- listening
- able to be individuals stills
- integraty
4. Knowledge
- how everyone responds to love language
- their needs
- acceptance of who they are
5. Commitment
- to keep relationship going and growing. |
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