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| Attachment and Separation |
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-provides a secure base for exploring the world
-occurs throughout the life cycle |
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| How does it provide a secure base? |
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n Always have something there to be for you, gives you support, you know if you go out of your comfort zone you can always go back to your girlfriend/boyfriend
n Spouse believes in you
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| secure, avoidant, anxious/ambivalent |
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n Unable to open up, person gets stressed and anxious, puts up a wall, never know what is going on with the person
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n Needs a lot of reassurance, very dependent
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| What is the belief about the relationship between infancy and adult attachment styles? |
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| They are the same..however one can also earn a new attachment style through years of extensive help, healthy relationships |
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| What are the three things that separation causes? |
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| protest, despair, detachment |
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Percentages of romantic attachment styles are similar to infant attachment percentages
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n 56% secure
n 25% avoidant
n 19% anxious / ambivalent
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| Percentages of who believes it is "easy to fall in love" |
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-20% of anxious ambivalents
-4& of avoidants
-9% of secures |
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| Percentages of people who believe "other people are well-intentioned and good natured" |
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72% of secures
44% of avoidants
32% of anxious/ambivalents |
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| What are the percentages of people who belief that "love can really last?" |
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59% of secures
46% of anxious/ambivalents
41% of avoidants |
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| How did secure people describe romantic experiences? |
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| described love experience as happy, friendly, and trusting; able to accept and support partner despite partner’s faults |
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| Hw did avoidant people describe their romantic experiences? |
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| characterized by fear of intimacy, emotional highs and lows, and jealousy |
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| How do a/a people describe their romantic experiences? |
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n experienced love as obsessive, desire for reciprocation and union, emotional highs and lows, and extreme sexual attraction and jealousy
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| If you have a positive view of others/self that makes you.... |
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| If you have a negative view of others but a positive sense of self that makes you... |
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| If you have a negative view of self and a positive view of others that makes you... |
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| If you have a negative view of self and a negative view of others that makes you... |
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| 3 components of romantic love |
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| passion, commitment, intimacy |
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| intimacy (no commitment, no passion) |
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| passion ( no commitment, intimacy) |
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| passion, commitment and intimacy |
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| 7 different types of love |
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| liking, infatuated love, empty love, romantic love, compassionate love, fatuous love, consummate love |
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n Definition: to share with and care about others without losing your own identity. It requires the ability to be vulnerable.You need other people to get through things, to find out your strengths and weakenesses
You also need to know yourself, and complete your identity and be able to be an individual without relying on others
Relationships can help keep you in check (that’s why bible says choose your friends wisely…because they can influence who you are)
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| three components of intimacy |
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| cognitive, affective, behavioral |
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| cognitive component of intimacy |
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n Perspective taking ability
-in a relationship….boy and girl can have very different cognitive approaches to the relationship and think opposite ways of the direction in which the relationship is going
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| Affective component of intimacy |
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| empathy (feeling with another) |
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| Behavioral component of intimacy |
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n Acting in a trustworthy way
n Being sensitive and responsive to others’ feelings
n Able to make a commitment
n Striving for equality and mutuality
n Communicating effectively
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| what are the three relationship maturity levels? |
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| self focused, role-focused, individuated-connected, |
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at the self focused level, cognition, affect, and behavior are simple, undifferentiated, and reactive
-One's perspective of another or a relationship is concerned only with how it affects the self |
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a perspective on others as individuals in their own right begins to develop at this level.
-know that acknowledging and respecting another is part of being a good friend or romantic partner
-caring is expressed
-commitment is not articulated
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empathy, insight, fidelity, and acceptance of self and other
-commitment
-high communication
-comfortable sexuality
-identity formation |
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| What are the five love languages? |
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| words of encouragement, acts of service, gift giving, physical touch, time spent together |
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| What are the three major styles to assertiveness? |
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| passive, aggressive, assertive |
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| lets himself get run over, tries to avoid conflict but ironically leads to conflict |
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| bullying over the other person, no concept of other opinions |
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balance, able to express yourself but you are cognizant of the other person
· Listening
· Breaks down conflict in an objective manner, able to assert position, get point across in a diplomatic way
· More about communication
· May be viewed as demanding or bossy
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