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| seperation & individuation |
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| seperate from family, while staying connected to ur family |
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| a persistent sameness within one's self & a sharing of ones essential character with others. |
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-vocational issues -political ideology -spiritual self -self in relation to others -sexual id -ethnic id -interests -body image |
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| process of identity formation: |
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-crisis- a period of role, experimentation & active decision making amoung alernative choices -commitment: making a choice amoung alternatives |
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- identity achievement- commitments made & crisis experienced (healthy)
- foreclosure- commitments makde & no crisis experienced
- diffusion- no commitment made & no crisis experienced
- moratorium- commitment made & is expericing crisis. (healthy)
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| a distinct period of development that differs from adolescence & young adulthood |
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| three criteria for achieving adulthood |
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-accepting responsibility for yourself -making independent decisions -being financially independent |
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| open,suportive, tender relationship with another without fear of losing one's self |
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| self-absorption, fear of losing ones self |
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female: "face to face" male: "side by side" |
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| males demonstrate more competitivness, less agreement, & less self-disclosure than females |
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| when females are involved in romantic relationships with males, they want the same level of intamacy with that male as their females friends |
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| males most often name their wives as their bff, where women name another female as their bff |
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| divorce is usually more emotinoally devistating for males than females |
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| affairs can predict divorce but does not cause it, bc something had to lead to being unhappy |
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-1/2 marriages end in divorce
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| children with divorced parents are more likely to divorce themselves |
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-60 families/131 kids
-homogenus group: well-educated, middle-upper class, white, no prior emotional problems, "divorce under the best circumstances"
-kids:
-1/3 doing well
-40% sig problems
-adults:
-50% men/75% women felt more content
-50% men/25% women felt as unhappy |
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-90% women get custody
-move
-date again
-go back to school
-less supervison |
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| kids are put in position that if they give ympthay to one parent, they are disloyal to the other |
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| issues kids have to deal with |
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-being forced to move
-having 2 parents in 2 differnt homes
-having to adjust to parents new lover
-carving out new relationship with dad |
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| females with divorced famiies are more often to be involved in sex, drugs, & alcohol |
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| age related reactions to divorce |
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preschool
-fear of abondonment
-confusion about visitations
-difficulty in comforting self
5-8 yrs old
-preoccupation w/ feelings of rejection, guilt, loss
-fear of being replaced
-males have intence longing for father
9-12 yrs old
-intense anger
-psychosomatic symptoms
-acting as caregivers to adults to exclusion of own needs
adolescence
-worry about their own relationships
-bc they understand complexity, they have difficulty sorting thru issues
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-anxiety about thei own successful involvement in romantic relationships
females:
-preoccupied w/ betrayal
males:
avoide relationships or reserved in them |
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| helping kids cope with divorce |
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-understanding divorce (tell kids together)
-stability
-dealing w/ loss
-dealing w/ anger
-delaing w/ guilt
-accepting permanence of divorce
-taking a chance on love |
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-average marriage 9 years
-unrealistic expectations regarding marriage leads to matrital satisfaction |
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| pew research center survey |
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1. being faithful
2. happy sexual relationship
3. sharing household chores
4. adequete income
5. good housing
6. shared religous belief
7. shared interest
8. having kids
9. agreement on politics |
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-giving/recieving worth affection
-experiencing the stimulation & fun kids bring
-being accepted as a repinsible/mature memeber of community
-experiencing new growth & learning oppurtunities tht add meaning to life
-having someone provide care in old age |
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| disadvantages of parenthood |
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-loss freedom
-financial strain
-fam & work conflict
worries
-moms employment
-loss privacy |
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1. living together prior to marriage is more likely to lead to divorce
2. those who live togeher b4 marriage report lower levels of satisfaction & commitment then those who dont |
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